The epidemic of young women putting one another down has become ridiculous and excessively cruel.
We're probably all guilty of not thinking before we speak or act or simply acting in anger or jealously and not considering the consequences bound to come thereafter. This bad habit is a large portion of the problem; we don't think of the harm spreading that one rumor will cause or the toll the name you called that girl it will take on her self esteem.
We sit and judge every little thing about one another until there's nothing left and we all feel vulnerable, weak and insufficient.
We spend our days picking apart the way a girl dresses, acts, laughs, anything fathomable and we throw out cheap 50 cent remarks like "whore". And for what gain? you just shut down another human being who, lets face it, is probably a lot like you. A girl whose going through the same things you are, with the same insecurities, same unrealistically high standards to meet, same issues and same fears. And you just shut her down with a word that probably carried no real truth at all it was just the first thing that came to your mind. That shouldn't be the case, we should want to help each other through the hell that is being a teenage girl, not aiding the suffering by feeding the fire. Instead of judging why don't we pull a complete 180 and change the way we think completely. Our first thoughts could be positive things like "oh my god she's gorgeous" "she's intelligent" "she's her own person and I think that's remarkable"
it's that easy to support one another and make things so much better.
why would we tear each other apart until there's nothing left when we could build each other up and become an entire society of strong, beautiful, positive, confident women? just think about that next time you decide to make a comment. Will it be to build toward a new race of women or to demolish what's already crumbling?
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ReplyDeleteSydney, I think you forgot to put your name on this, but it's okay because I know that you wrote this. You may or may not have told me. Anyways, I love this blog post. You are completely correct in your observation of how girls are raised to be catty and cruel to one another. We grow up with the examples of gossip and put-downs displayed by everyone around us, men included. Men are under a stereotype of being quick to forgive and having feelings of steel, when in reality, they're going through the same thing. So maybe this isn't a women thing. Maybe this isn't a man thing, either. Maybe this is a human thing. Either way, I do agree that this is a problem that needs to be fixed.
ReplyDelete--Karlee Sanders
You do need to put your name on your posts and when you comment. After watching what you teenagers go through these days with cyber bullying, I am soooooo.... glad that I'm not a teenager and didn't live my teenage years through social media. I didn't even have a cell phone until after high school. Hallelujah!!! If things are going to change for you girls, you'll have to be the generation that changes it because it will only get worse.
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