i have learned my lessons over summer. one thing i’ve learned is not let people get to you and to love yourself before you love anyone else. going into the last couple of month of summer i planned on doing a lot of stuff in the summer and to have the best one yet. well let’s just say that didn’t happen. going into the summer there was a bunch of drama going on. i thought summer was going to be bad and i wasn’t going to have fun. the first couple weeks of summer is the ones i will never forget. i realized who my real friends are and who i will be friends with forever. it was weird having so much time on my hands. since i’m not playing basketball anymore i didn’t see as many friends as usual. i didn’t go on any trips besides to hot springs and the water park. the lake trip was really fun. i went through many ups and downs through the summer. i have really good memories with all of my friends. and then i have some bad memories that i want to forget about. another thing i learned is to forgive people even when it’s hard. carrying around in your mind that you are mad at someone and you can’t forget what they done to you is hard. it makes your day 10x worse and it makes you in the worst mood. so forgiving someone is the best solution to that problem. it feels like weight is lifted off your shoulders and it puts you in a better mood instantly. it also helps you forget about all the bad things that might’ve done or what you don’t want to remember. not letting people get to you is also hard to do. i’m one of those people who cares what other people think of me and i want everyone to like me. i don’t like if people hate me. i am slowly learned to get over those things. loving yourself before you love anyone will make things so much easier in a relationship. if you love yourself you don’t have to worry about what others will think. these are the best lessons i have ever learned.
Yes, I completely agree with you. Forgiving someone can be so hard. I know it is for me. And really, it depends on the situation. It is over something small, I normally forgive immediately. I try not to trouble myself with it. If it is over something a bit bigger, I forgive but with a reason or an apology. But, somethings that people do or say are extremely hard to forgive. Sometimes, for me, I can be so hurt from it, that I try and tell myself and them that I forgive them but in all reality, I haven't. It can be confusing at times. -Heavyn Hadl
ReplyDeleteI wholeheartedly agree with you. And I don't know if this could make you feel any better, but I went through something similar this summer so I relate. It can be so confusing and frustrating, and it is so, so important to forgive, or at least to try to, because it's not healthy holding grudges. It can build up until you explode. You shouldn't feel bad if it's hard to forgive, because sometimes people do unforgivable things and it will take a while to accept the fact and to start forgiving. Also! Trying to not let people get to you is so hard. Sometimes all you can think about is what they say and question if what they said is true. Just know yourself and surround yourself with people you love and care for, and even disconnect from social media for a while if you need to. -Zoe
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