Second Chances
Everybody makes mistakes in their lives, whether they are huge ones or small ones.
Immediately people assume the worst, and second chances are not even considered. Sometimes, in a severe situation, not giving a second chance is understandable, but other times they should be.
For minor mistakes, second chances should always be considered.
I had this amazing friendship. This person made their way into my life and it was bittersweet. I made mistakes, several of them actually. All minor and some were not mistakes in my mind, it was just living my own life without being told how to do it. This person did not understand. They wanted me to be just like them, trying to be the best person over everyone. I could not always do that. Yet, I seemed to be the one working to make the friendship work and giving all the chances before I could not take it anymore. It got old fast. This person put me down for so many things I did, even my mistakes that could be forgiven. They acted like they could control my life.
Even with all the fights and periods of not speaking, I always worked to make things right again.
They seemed to be after that but never were. This person never even truly gave me my first second chance in the friendship. My mistakes were not awful, it was not listening to what they wanted me to do with my life and making my own choices even if they were not the best. I was accused of things
and treated like I just did not meet their personal standards.
Second chances should be considered in situations like my own. I worked so hard to make the
friendship work, I gave them second chances every time I was put down or treated like the things I wanted did not really matter. I dealt with this. Yet, even with all my attempts and love for this friend, I was never truly given my own second chance.
I partially agree with you when it comes to second chances. The minor mistakes should definitely be forgiven, but when they are constantly happening and that person isn't learning from their mistakes, you have to move on. You cannot keep giving them second chances, when they continue to make the same mistakes. For the huge ones, it depends on the situation and if it was their first time making a huge mistake. I have had the same experience as you, and looking back, I am glad I wasn't given a second chance. It helped mold me into the person I am today, and it led me to the people I have in my life now.
ReplyDeleteI forgot to attach my name, so the previous comment belongs to Hailey Carr.
DeleteI agree that second chances are important and should be given. I think that you can give them that second chance, but if they do something that is really bad again you forgive them and move on. Sure second chances are important, but there is a line between forgiving and getting taken advantage of. I went through the same thing too. I'm sorry you had to go through that it stinks. - Grace Anne
ReplyDeleteSecond chances are something that definitely should be considered when little mistakes are made, but when it is something too big to be forgiven, then I don't think it should. If you offer someone a second chance, but they never offer you yours, then that is their loss. It takes someone with big heart to offer second chances, but some people are just too hard to reach. -Katie Towery
ReplyDeleteI agree that second chances are pretty important, in a way though, sometimes it's not always deserved. Let's say if someone cheated on me, no, there are no second chances, and it is not deserved. Also if you tried for your best friend and they always use you, no, they don't deserve a second chance. -Teressa Boatman
ReplyDeleteSome minor mistakes can be forgiven but personally, I don't forgive easily and if I do forgive you, I won't forget what you did. When it comes down to it, I am not going to fight someone to be in my life or to like me, if they want to they will but if the don't I don't give a rip. - Kaitlyn Reed
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