Perspective can be influenced by so many things; for instance, first impressions, attitudes, and even rumors. It's easy to limit yourself to one perspective based on some of those factors, but it's always intelligent to take a step back and really analyze the subject in depth. This is very important when it comes to analyzing people.
My change of perspective was not a positive one, and for that reason, I won't name specific people. If you know, you know. For years and years I was best friends with someone who I believed was just like me, someone who would love and support me through anything. I trusted this person with everything -- all of my secrets, all of my fears, all of my dreams. We were always together, and anyone who knew them knew me as well. I was so blind to all of the negative qualities about this person, even after I had spent time after time in trouble because of the things they would convince me to do. In their defense, with so little to do in our hometown, getting into trouble was just about all there was for entertainment.
My perspective started to change when they began to hang out with some unsavory people. I refused to believe that that small change would affect their attitude towards me. It wasn't until they started and spread an appalling rumor about me that I recognized those negative qualities that I had ignored before. I was bitter and utterly heartbroken. It took me so long to recover from the betrayal, and for a while I felt that I couldn't trust anyone or confide in someone the way I had confided in that person.
Time has past, and I've let go of the anger that I held onto; however, I'm so much more careful around people and very selective with who I trust. My perspective didn't just change for that one particular person, it changed for everyone.
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